tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2643034159440802781.post5548247520835125099..comments2023-10-11T23:52:38.719+11:00Comments on dear olive: parentingdear olivehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03759035094543810261noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2643034159440802781.post-25322804554481130482014-03-24T00:45:23.692+11:002014-03-24T00:45:23.692+11:00Being a mother of a spirited child, or a child wit...Being a mother of a spirited child, or a child with bone in her nose (a saying in norway, which just sounds completely stupid in english, haha)is hard! Well, I guess being a parent in general is difficult. <br /><br />My sweet girl is almost 13 now. And she's always been a handful. The first 5 years of her life, I constantly walked around feeling like a bad mother. Feeling like I didn't do the right things, not having enough patience, getting angry at her and so on! <br /><br />But then I realised me feeling bad didn't help her, or me! So I started a new path as a mother. She was MY child, and I knew best what was good for her. I needed to be confident. And things have been so much better after I stopped feeling guilty all the time. <br /><br />the SAGA by Steinsdotter.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09464362857519810938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2643034159440802781.post-65764725212932686562014-03-14T20:33:15.844+11:002014-03-14T20:33:15.844+11:00It's really hard,so hard,such a lovely honest ...It's really hard,so hard,such a lovely honest post. I think you nailed though when you said if you just love them and keep them close they will thrive right? mybeardedpigeon@gmail.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15255096578370542485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2643034159440802781.post-5724184322940665182014-03-14T00:44:21.304+11:002014-03-14T00:44:21.304+11:00yes, this post resonates with me and some things c...yes, this post resonates with me and some things coco and i are working through. she's just over 3 now and SO emotional. "mum, i neeeeed you!" in tears as often as screaming at me. but, as rachael@mogantosh mentions, the moments when she's sweet to little frankie make me feel like we'll get there (though i'm already alarmed at the violence frankie is capable of at 15 months - i'm foreseeing some real cat fights with these two!). and a p.s. for taz @ butter&buntings - i'm sure you haven't done anything wrong - babies/kids are just feisty passionate little people! and for that we should be thankful (most of the time). :) xoAlex Sundayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18015387408974151663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2643034159440802781.post-85437528949227146222014-03-14T00:43:23.011+11:002014-03-14T00:43:23.011+11:00This comment has been removed by the author.Alex Sundayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18015387408974151663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2643034159440802781.post-80215597036578402862014-03-13T09:53:26.240+11:002014-03-13T09:53:26.240+11:00Hang in there Kerll! I dug this out; I wrote it wh...Hang in there Kerll! I dug this out; I wrote it when Ivy was three: http://www.babble.com/toddler/preschool-behavior-kids-three-year-old/<br /><br />But still apllies to four: nuts, nuts, nuts! Honestly, both of mine started to settle significantly at five. Now it's all comedic memories of that time, but when you're living it (and pregnant!) it's not so funny. <br /><br />Another thought I had is that when the baby comes, Olive might really step up to that - mine did. That sense of 'our baby'; the little one that belongs to all three of the big people in the family, is very profound and lovely for older siblings. <br /><br />xxxxRachael @Mogantoshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07284324325966835237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2643034159440802781.post-50558648536600951782014-03-13T09:19:44.717+11:002014-03-13T09:19:44.717+11:00p.s my Olive has just started saying 'I HATTTT...p.s my Olive has just started saying 'I HATTTTEEE YOU, MUM'.<br /><br />I thought I had at least another 9 years before that shit began.::The Beetle Shack::https://www.blogger.com/profile/09703082768846184281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2643034159440802781.post-45739759098895730542014-03-13T09:18:53.829+11:002014-03-13T09:18:53.829+11:00Oh Kell, I actually feel teary reading this. Paren...Oh Kell, I actually feel teary reading this. Parenting is HARD. Fucking hard. Impossible even.<br /><br />Mostly I feel teary because at the end of your post I see two books that have SAVED ME time and time again.<br /><br />Take solace in their words. So much wisdom is within.<br /><br />YAY for you being a bloody excellent parent.<br /><br />x em::The Beetle Shack::https://www.blogger.com/profile/09703082768846184281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2643034159440802781.post-28793682067429664922014-03-12T23:42:33.522+11:002014-03-12T23:42:33.522+11:00Nothing like a bit of reflection on your own child...Nothing like a bit of reflection on your own childhood and fucked upedness to put a chill in the ole parent.<br /><br />My dad always said "you gotta have someone to blame at the psychiatrists office."<br /><br />;)Rinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12222658668876996867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2643034159440802781.post-83385364425064482252014-03-12T18:51:58.643+11:002014-03-12T18:51:58.643+11:00This is really helpful to read. My little one is 1...This is really helpful to read. My little one is 18 months and already is starting to be more of a person than a baby, and with that is coming hitting, tantrums, thrashing, throwing. I dont know where ive gone wrong, and I do fear the fact that one wrong move could stuff him up, but its really good to read im not the only one. Thanks TazButterandBuntingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03981249421210957432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2643034159440802781.post-56439228532304187752014-03-12T18:19:14.431+11:002014-03-12T18:19:14.431+11:00Yes, yes and yes! Including the slamming doors and...Yes, yes and yes! Including the slamming doors and being told we are not loved by her anymore... I'm currently 6 months pregnant and our girl (just turned 3) is a little hot mess of emotions...never knowing when she is going to completely lose the plot or amaze you with sweetness. She has become, at age 3, a velcro baby. We are doing lots of cuddles, talks, special time and firm boundaries but still it is taking its toll on all of us. I'm with you sister xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04300613077192172171noreply@blogger.com